Aunt Kay has assigned me to put pen to paper articulating what the Disciplinary Wives Club promotes, and of equal importance, what it does not promote in my view.
This is a relatively easy assignment given the rich material on the web-site, but it was not assigned to me for it's ease - it was assigned to me to take a little of my spare time away, as I was cheeky to Aunt Kay in an e-mail and am now paying the price. That the price is low is a reason for me to be grateful and acknowledge Aunt Kay's generous nature.
Indeed, in a microcosm this describes what the DWC stands for - strong, capable women providing men with nurturing discipline and control, not in an abusive or ultra-severe way, but in ways that helps the man understand his place.
The DWC is all about reality, special relationships, love and trust. The sort of trust that would enable a strong man to weep in his wife's arms after a licking, and then gently being led to the corner while drying his eyes. The sort of trust that would enable a woman to administer a strong dose of woodshed medicine to a man she loves and likes. The sort of trust that would allow a man to accept scolding, groundings, time-outs and penance tasks, just because his disciplinarian has determined he needs it.
It is not about S&M, sexual deviation or "kink." Nor is it overly concerned with sex, although DWC principles are in the context of adult relationships. The DWC promotes a lifestyle where people who are committed to each other can get the help they need in dealing with behavior problems, stress or the need to change in some fundamental way, and to be secure in the knowledge that they will get that help. The help might come at the expense of a blistered seat, or through other methods. It might be severe. But it will be nurturing, empathetic discipline, delivered in a supportive manner.
It is this last point that differentiates the DWC from programs and websites that are based on a Slave/Mistress mentality, fetish-based ideas of female supremacy and pornographic expressions. Just as a mother corrects her young child, the DWC woman guides and mentors her man in loving strictness. Firm, fair, unrelenting and demanding should be words that describe the DWC woman. Repentant, tearful, humbled and calm should describe the man.
Finally, DWC also provides useful help in terms of implements, instructional videos and related material, and even a "personals" section to help like-minded people meet and grow close in a romantic, strict relationship.
Jon