Hello Aunt Kay,
It has been some time since I had my ad on your site and have communicated to you via email. I have finally found the Lady of my life and am very happy to have done so. She is really interesting, well-educated, and a scientist.
She is loving and also quite strict with me at times. I do have a tendency to have a wise mouth at times and she has managed to correct this condition with a cane she bought. It is 28-inch rattan cane, which she uses when she feels that I need to be corrected more severely. I tried to talk her out of buying it, as I gave her a very nice but gentler flogger, but was unable to do so and have felt the results of the cane. The cane is a very painful tool in her hands and I really do not care to be caned even when I know that I deserve it. I like this arrangement, as there are no disagreements, which are not resolved, as she has the right to have the final say and I have agreed that is the way it should be.
Our relationship is one of complete intimacy due to the dominance/submissive relationship we have and I love it very much. I am actually a much nicer and more thoughtful man since she has complete control of almost everything, which I do. Our relationship is probably a little heavier than those of your acquaintance, but it is to me just as it should be and I would not wish it to be any other way.
It has taken me some time to have this relationship, which I very much love. I hope other men do not give up on the hope of finding a lady who they wish to control them and spank them and maybe even whip them. It is not easy but I believe if they are sincere, honest, and truly want a lady to be in charge of them, it is possible.
About my search: I met with probably ten ladies. It is not easy, but if the passion is there to find the right lady, it can be done. I traveled to CO, KS, CA, and Canada before I was successful. I also believe one must be honest, not be crude, but still say what one is seeking.
I know there is supposed to be about 100 submissive men to each dominant lady, but I have found from talking with dominant ladies there are few really sincere quality submissive men. I also believe that there are many ladies who would like this type of relationship if given the proper introduction by a submissive man.
What I also did at some point, in writing to a lady, was have her go to your site to read what was written there. In this way, she reads about what others have written about this type of relationship and can come to her own conclusions about the lifestyle.
Thanks for all your help,
Roger