After reading "A Husband's Essay", I asked permission from my wife to write this. She definitely believes in unearned spankings. Obviously, I am punished whenever I break one of her rules, but she prefers to avoid the unpleasantness of my breaking a rule and requiring punishment. She believes that since the husband is usually physically stronger than his wife, it is essential that she constantly reasserts her position as the dominant member of the marriage, lest he gets to feeling too frisky, and is tempted to flaunt one or more rules. As a result, I am spanked every Sunday right after we return from church.
Since she believes that when a spanking is given, a woman should appear her most feminine, which emphasizes female dominance, the timing of my spankings are a convenience to her. She is already in dress and hose as opposed to jeans she wears normally. We enter the house, and there is no question as to what happens next. Straight to the bedroom where she sits on her spanking chair and watches me remove my suit. I don't have to ask any questions, I simply bring her the hairbrush, the paddle, and her cane. I am to stand beside her while she drops my pants and shorts, then I am told to fold her skirt back (which avoids wrinkling)
At this point, she is in no hurry. I receive a lecture on the facts that women are men's natural superiors, and that they have the right to absolute obedience from their husbands and that she expects exactly that from me. She explains that though I have behaved pretty well the previous week, the spanking I am going to receive is to assure that I continue to do so in the coming week. Then she very calmly instructs me to get across her lap. What I get then also varies from one time to the next, but usually she applies a couple of dozen severe swats with the hairbrush, then pauses to ask me if I am learning anything, or to ask me if I appreciate what she is doing for me. Then comes the paddle, never fewer than thirty,and usually a dozen or so more than that.
By this time I am normally sobbing and VERY aware that my wife is the boss in our house. But she is not finished yet, I know her rules, and she expects me to report any infraction that occurs when I am away from her. She asks me if any such thing occurred that I failed to report in the previous week, which, of course, would have earned me a spanking on the spot. If I confess to one or more of these (and I have been trained to the point that I would not think of lying to her) she picks up the cane and tells me to get into position by grasping my ankles. She hasn't had the cane long, but she has become quite adept with it. I can expect a minimum of five on my already sore bottom, and, depending on her mood or the number or type of infraction, it is sometimes more.
Then it is off to the corner for me while she chats on the phone with one of our kids, or one of her friends and watches me to be sure that I do not rub any of the pain away. Sometimes, I am left in the corner longer than that while she has lunch, or what ever else she wishes to do. Everything is structured to assure her that she has impressed on me again that women are superior to men. Frankly, it works. I very seldom need a spanking during the week, and she is spared experiencing the behavior that warrants one. When she first insisted on my accepting a spanking from her years ago, I resisted until she made it clear to me that I had no choice. Since then, she has redefined our relationship. There is no bickering let alone arguing in our home. I have accepted the fact that my wife is my superior and really I am much happier because of it. They should put "love, honor, and obey" back in the marriage vows, but it is the groom who should take that vow while the bride vows to "love, honor, and correct"
Signed Tom