Dear Aunt Kay,
You have created a wonderful website that is very informative and your implements are of outstanding quality. My wife’s favorite is Old Reliable. We have purchased three of your paddles, two canes and two books and all are absolutely great.
Although we have been to your website numerous times, our attempts at the lifestyle weren’t really successful. I think the main reason was (just learned this in the last couple of days) that my wife felt that being spanked was just a sexual fantasy of mine and that it was just one more chore to add to her list. Her punishments were irregular and usually not severe enough to change any bad behavior (although there were a few exceptions).
Sometime around January 15, I visited the website to see if you had added any new implements. Instead of a new paddle, etc. I found the letter from Mrs. Warren! She sounded as if she could have been my wife. She outlined a very structured system, and her idea of a timer was nothing short of brilliant, along with her diary. My wife is very structured and list oriented. That weekend while we were at the computer for another reason I went to the website and showed her Mrs. Warren’s letter, and when she said she liked the timer idea I presented her with a brand new timer of her own. She also liked the diary and said we needed to get a notebook. While she was at work that Monday I went and purchased a really nice binder. It has a clear sleeve on its cover so I downloaded a copy of the window scene and the DWC logo and inserted them inside the sleeve. I wrote a “Mission Statement” and since I couldn’t find any of our DWC contracts I made up a Chore and Rule Agreement form. When she came home from work that evening she was impressed and we agreed that our new lifestyle would start Feb. 1. We also agreed that in the meantime there would be some “training” sessions.
When she came home on Tuesday evening, I had added her caning manual and a copy of Mrs. Warren’s letter as our guide to the book along with a section called The Weekly Review and Punishment Log. There is also a section on the different types of spankings. If a chore is not done, or not done correctly, there may or may not be an immediate spanking, but either way it is listed in the log. Breaking a rule gets an immediate spanking plus entered into the log. Every Saturday AM is weekly review and punishment time.
Just like Mrs. Warren, 1 offense equals a 10 min. session, plus 5 min. for each additional offense. Two or more offenses will also earn 5 cane strokes per offense. She said she thought it was time for the first training session and that it would be a 5 min. one. I was thinking that this was going to be like the spankings in the past, just over her knee for a longer period of time. It was rather appropriate that this was the same day that the man that ran on “real change” was inaugurated as President. When the 5 min. was over my bottom was on fire ! I had never had a spanking like that in my life. There was also a feeling of contentment that is also indescribable . The next day I met her during lunch and I told her that we should have made a video of the night before because it would have been perfect for a DWC training video and that my backside was still sore.
She promised that she was going to add to it when she got home. That one was bent over a barstool and was only 12 spanks with a ping pong paddle, but there were tears in my eyes when I stood up. That Saturday AM I received a 10 min. training spanking for our weekly review and somehow I though I heard fire trucks on their way. I asked her what had made such a huge difference in her spankings and she said that my putting that much time and effort into making the manual had convinced her that my need was not sexually driven. We also agreed that we were starting the lifestyle right then.
Another Saturday AM weekly review has come and gone since then and I had forgotten one chore and broken one rule ( one that was a double entry into the log plus 5 additional cane strokes ) so that was a 20 min. session and 15 cane strokes. The timed sessions work very well as she has all the time she needs to scold while my bottom is in position for her to add emphasis when she pleases. There have been very few days since Jan. 20th that my bottom hasn’t been sore, but there also hasn’t been a time in my life when I have been any happier. She tells me that her happiness is off the charts because of my new attitude and sharing the workload as well as giving her some special attention.
All I can say to men that think this is the lifestyle that they want is to search their souls and be absolutely sure of it first, then try to find a way for it to fit your wife’s personality so that it is not going to be impossible for her and last but not least, make one of your first rules one that states that even if you decide in the future that you don’t want to be spanked that it is ok as long as you obey her, do your chores and follow the rules. If not, you’ll be spanked, like it or not. It is totally unfair for you to expect your wife to make this big of a change and then change back for whatever reason that you choose.
We have also added a point system to our book. If no rules are broken, all chores done correctly and on time and I have not disobeyed her for the week I receive so many points. If I have anything in the log for that week so many points are deducted for each offense. There is a list of rewards and how many points it takes to get them. When I have enough points saved I may purchase my choice. If I don’t have enough I must save until I do.
There has been one side effect that neither of us expected. We are kissing, holding hands and totally crazy about each other again. We have always loved each other, but it has brought us closer together and it happened almost immediately upon starting this lifestyle.
This is a message to Mrs. Warren. Thank you so much for writing your letter. Every Saturday AM around 8 I hope that it brings a smile to your face knowing that there is another husband over his wife’s knee getting his “rump roasted” and that he is eternally grateful to you.
Thanks again Aunt Kay and wish you continued success with your website.
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Dear Aunt Kay:
I have been a member of this website for quite a few years now, back when You called potential members and spoke to the wife personally. we were going along pretty good and then I got sick (cancer) which I beat; five years and no sign of it coming back.
I just wanted you to know that we stayed away from the spankings for a long time, but as you know we husbands cannot stay away for very long. I have been to many many websites. Yours is still the most honest and genuine of all of them. I feel comfortable on your site. More comfortable than any other site I have visited.
I just wanted to tell you that my wife and I are back into DWC, and it feel like I have come home from a long journey. I am so happy that she is really getting back in the swing of things. I think she agreed to come back because your site is so genuine.
Thanks again.
Paul