Hi Aunt Kay
Thought you may consider the following for Real People.
A year ago, I sent off for the DWC manuals and one morning got the courage to introduce them to my wife and asked her to read them. She was amazed at the content and agreed that it may be a way for us to consider living. Virtually nothing changed immediately, life just went. I had read the husbands manual and began following Kay’s advice. Attitudes and respect for each other seemed to kind of strengthen and then one day after about six months we arrived home from a shopping trip, and I heard the words "Do you want a spanking now or later?" This was a total surprise, we had lightly spanked each other during sex but more about that part later.
I of course said now and was sent upstairs with the instruction to remove my pants etc. Grabbing the bull by the horns I placed a chair in the center of the bedroom and bent myself over it, quivering in anticipation. After a short while my wife proceeds into the bedroom and as per Kay’s manual begins to scold me for impatience while shopping etc. and that she would now fulfill my wishes to be punished but only on her terms. At this point she got our small paddle out and began to vent her frustrations on my lower cheeks!!
Things then went quietly again for a few months, the topic came up in conversation and I continued to live by the advice in Kay’s manual. During one conversation I explained my inner most thoughts on the subject, my main thought was that spanking for punishment seemed to be clouding our sex life and should be separated from it both mentally and physically. Mentally I managed this and our love making became much more intense and intimate, my wife obviously noticed this and enjoyed it, she asked how I was doing without regular spankings and I explained my frustrations and underlined the kind of mental cleansing it seemed to give me when and if it happened.
This was the turning point, we have subsequently bought a cane, and I am now spanked about once every two weeks or whenever she feels like it. That is the key Gentlemen, patience and realizing it is when SHE feels like it and above all do not complain about "miss hits" they are painful, but she has to practice and you volunteered to be the target.
Spankings for us now are part of life and have helped bond a much closer and more intimate marriage. Today they take the following form:
"Please remove your clothes right now here in front of me and then go upstairs and lay face down on the bed." I follow her instructions to the letter, and there I lay twitching in anticipation and worry. Finally, she will come up the stairs and begin to tell me in no uncertain terms why I am to be punished, she will then indicate approximate strokes. This morning it was 24 with the strap to be followed by 18 with the cane, "Oh, and no warmup dear, this is going to hurt because it should."
With that she strolled over to the cupboard and removed the implements to be used, laying them on the bed in front of me. “Raise your hips dear, let's bolster up the target area a bit with this pillow.” By now I am a nervous wreck. "I do not want to hear a sound while I use the strap, when I use the cane you will count - understand ?" With that and before I could answer the first stroke with the strap landed flush with a resounding thwack. The next 23 were just as vicious and my rear end was on fire. Expecting the cane, I was surprised when she went downstairs, this had never happened before. After a few minutes I dressed and followed to make sure she was OK, I found her in the kitchen smoking and making a coffee, when she saw me, she went crazy. "Who the hell told you to get off the bed?" I was then marched upstairs and put in position again. " What made you think I was finished? I told you you were getting the cane and getting the cane you are, if I want a break I'll have one - you stay put and do not move in future!"
With that my caning began with me counting like the good boy I am, after 18 all went quiet. "Right, stand up and bend over the end of the bed. I am giving you 6 more for using your initiative and getting up before, instead of following instructions." Thinking this would never end and now already red raw, I of course complied. What followed were the 6 severest strokes I have yet received the accuracy of which was stunning.
After it is over I make coffee, still nude so she can watch the welts develop, we hug, I thank her for her understanding and out bond is increased.
Anyway, Kay that’s about it. It has been a long road and your kindness in answering my emails a year ago has been appreciated. We really are now a DWC couple!!