Aunt Kay,
Thanks for your site. My wonderful wife and I were introduced to it by her sister after my wife left me and I enlisted her sisters help to get us back together. Following my sister in laws advice, we worked out a new lifestyle. In six short months my wife has become an enthusiastic and accomplished disciplinarian, despite considerable trepidation on both our parts to start with. Before, I would realize that I had done something to hurt or annoy her, and spend days trying to put it right. It's different now. When I see that certain look on her face, I know I'm in for it. My stomach starts to churn, and all I can think is "please not the cane. Please let it not be the cane". I know that no matter what implement she chooses, I'm shortly going to be hollering and begging her to stop, but I dread the cane like nothing else. She certainly errs on the side of strictness, and I hate everything about our discipline sessions, but it got me my wife back, and she's happier now than she ever was before, so I'm not complaining. Keep it up.