Dear Aunt Kay,
I want to thank you for your website. For over thirty years my wife and I believed we were weird for the way we lived; your site has let us know that we are not alone.
Before we married I explained that for many reasons I reacted badly to verbal confrontation. Being nagged was something that my first wife was an expert at and I believe it led to our divorce. We also agreed that my wife would use a good spanking to "get my attention" whenever she felt it was necessary. Our arrangement has resulted in thirty years of happiness and three well-adjusted children.
We have a paddle that resembles the "Holy Terror" you advertise and I can attest that it works. I can expect, without failure, to have my bare rear laying in position across my wife's knees for any transgression I have committed, if she is in a bad mood (even if I had nothing to do with it) or getting "too big for my britches". A typical session consists of from 50 to 150 meetings between my cheeks, and the paddle leaves me quite sore. This usually happens on at least a weekly basis.
We also agreed that any objection on my part, or not staying in position until she is finished, would result in my being restrained in an appropriate position and the paddle being replaced with a cane. This has only been necessary about a dozen times and not for at least the last five years. Believe me, I try very hard not to object when the paddle comes out.
She also feels that if I have not received a sound spanking for a couple of weeks, I need a reminder of who sets the rules. My interest in sports is used sometimes. We may watch a football game on TV, and I get five swats for each point scored by either team. It it's a pro basketball game it is one swat per point. My high school was recently involved in a state championship football game, and she decided that ten swats per point would give the game more meaning to me. I was happy that they won, but with a combined 66 points being scored found sitting extremely difficult.
The benefits: We have never gone to bed mad. My wife knows that I have paid for anything I have done that displeases her or for having a generally bad attitude. Any anger she may have felt, even from something other than me, is completely released as I suffer across her knee. I never feel bad for something I may have done, believe me I pay for it. Really blistering my bottom often turns her on and, believe me, I benefit greatly from that. I even get something else to worry about if I am in a foul mood from a bad day at work.
Our arrangement would not work if she were not such a terrific woman. I always know why I am on the receiving end of the hairbrush and I believe am a better person because of it.
Again, thanks for your site.
David
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Additional note from Betty:
Dave's standing up watching me add this note to his report. He didn't let me know he was writing about our little secret. I don't care, but I should have been informed before I found it on the computer. I let him pick three of yesterday’s NBA games without knowing the scores. The teams don't matter but his picks had scores of 102-96, 117-100 and 102-99. Guess why he is standing.
I must admit I enjoy being in control as much as he seems to recognize its benefits. I also I have a responsibility to be fair and firm. And Dave will tell you that firm can be translated into quite painful. Even though I wasn't really mad, the last couple of hours have been quite enjoyable - at least for me.
If I could give advice to other wives who manage to be in control, it would be, never stop applying the paddle until you are satisfied. The condition of his bottom is something that is both needed and wanted. Extra spanks will never be as serious a problem as too few.