Dear Aunt Kay,
I wish to report on my DWC relationship with my wife and how effective it is. My wife is a true DWC woman and her efforts work well because punishment spankings are relatively rare. However, when necessary, she heads for the kitchen (or sends me) to get the heavy wooden salad spoon. Thankfully, she is not as strict as most of the wives I read about on the DWC site. But her disciplinary spankings hurt plenty, and I try to avoid them. She spanks hard from the very beginning, which quickly eliminates any initial sexual arousal on my part. And once she finds her rhythm, she applies the hardwood long enough and hard enough to make certain that I learn a lesson. In fact she likes to see my backside hot and glowing, and readily admits that she gets quite excited while disciplining me.
And, consistent with DWC teachings, both my wife and I feel better afterwards. Several years ago, we transformed our spanking "games" into a device for the true to-life enforcement of her rules. At first, she was not completely comfortable with it, but she couldn't help but notice that it worked so well. Now, she has no guilt or conflict about either the pain or my humiliation, and her threats of hard spankings are a regular part of our real relationship. She will sometimes pull me aside and whisper, where the kids can't hear, "If you fail to _________ (whatever) I will blister your behind" and I assure you that my behavior is quite influenced by trying to avoid that outcome.
The defining moment in this power relationship was the first time I was punished when I personally felt that I was innocent. In our former life, I would have argued my position and tried to convince her that I was right, or that I was not guilty of the perceived misconduct. I might even have reacted with some disrespectful, hurtful or mean words or deeds. Those days are long gone.
Now that she spanks for disciplinary purposes, I never persist with disagreement or argument, even when I may strongly believe that I am right. When that situation is presented, I accept her authority. I realize that going over her knee is in my own best interests because the conflict will thus be resolved. It is not always "fair," but it is certainly efficacious, and it provides a sense of security for both of us.
Based on my experience, I can assure any of your male readers that this system truly works to maintain order and respect in the home. Here it is in a nutshell, gentlemen: It hurts like the dickens when you are over her knee, but the love is there at all times. No husband who has been paddled for real on the bare behind by an angry wife wants to offer his bottom up for punishment ever again. It is not sexy. But it is for the best in the long run to submit to her authority in all matters, try to learn from your mistakes and avoid whining about your predicament. You will become a more thoughtful husband, without a doubt, and your marriage will be better without the bickering.
Thanks, Aunt Kay, for keeping up the DWC web site. The policies and practices you advocate may be happening in a relatively small percentage of homes, but they are profoundly beneficial to those who believe in and live this lifestyle.
Most respectfully,
Eddie