Taking Control and Post-Orgasm Spankings

[This is a story from a commenter on The Disciplinary Couples' Club and not part of the Real People Section of the Disciplinary Wives Club.]

I am going to comment on two themes running through your last two questions and the comments made to them. One is about a wife “seizing control and related is the notion of whether you are ready to submit completely to her authority. My experience (with two different women) is that you don’t know if you are ready until she draws that line in the sand and demands you accept discipline. She has to seize control and then you find out. What took time in both my relationships was that my disciplinarians sensed I was ambivalent and so they hesitated to take that final step. I think it is hard in our culture for many women to demand obedience and you really have to show you are ready to submit to their authority. With my girlfriend it never really happened but my wife pretty early in our relationship insisted I accept a spanking for something I felt was unfair (at the time). That spanking happened and I realized that emotionally I could not stop her even though physically I could have. That was a defining moment for us when I realized she would spank when she decided and I couldn’t stop it. I think something like that has to happen in every DD relationship if it is to become real. As much as we think we want discipline our women have to seize and use their authority before it all clicks. Because we can’t discipline ourselves is why we ask our wives or girlfriends to do it for us. The other issue is being made to orgasm before punishment. Any male who has been punished this way would probably do almost anything to avoid another. It probably is the purest kind of adult punishment and I doubt there is a male who is not reduced to tears spanked that way. I do think willingness to accept this is an acid test for being ready to submit completely. Both women I have been involved with demanded authority to use this to enhance punishment rather than to humiliate. My girlfriend told me she felt it a limit on her authority until I agreed to do it but after I did a couple of times she never used it again. My wife also saw it as a control issue but she does actually use it to punish me for one particular misbehavior. It just my opinion but if you are looking for a way to show your wife she is in charge offer to take your next spanking after orgasm. Believe me she will understand what you are offering and after it’s over you will have no doubt who is in charge.

Alan

Tears

[This is a story from a commenter on The Disciplinary Couples' Club and not part of the Real People Section of the Disciplinary Wives Club.]

“Broken” is a word many find uncomfortable but it just means a deep surrender to the authority of your wife and subsequent obedience after you have been “broken”. I don’t think crying is necessarily a part of it although crying is a sure sign it has occurred. To me being broken means you accept totally your wife’s authority, give up any rebellion and accept punishment from her without argument or resistance. It happened to me the first time with a girlfriend before I met my wife. With her at that time I sometimes stopped a spanking when she took it far beyond anything I wanted or thought I could take. This greatly annoyed her and eventually would have destroyed our relationship. But this time something happened when I reached that point because one second I knew I had to stop it and the next I was telling myself I deserved what I was getting ( I really did) and I had an obligation to take it until she was done. I just let go to the pain and the embarrassment and stopped struggling against the spanking. Before she was done my bum was completely numb and I was limp and crying over her lap. Usually when she spanked me she told me I was getting a lesson in obedience or she was going to teach me obedience. After that spanking I told her I had learned that lesson but another way I could have put it was that I had been broken or disobedience had been broken, all the same thing I think. As far as I remember I never resisted her spanking me after that and I have never disobeyed my wife when she told me I was getting spanked. So for me at least after I was broken to a woman’s authority it was permanent.

Alan

Stumbling Into a Spanking

[This is a story from a commenter on The Disciplinary Couples' Club and not part of the Real People Section of the Disciplinary Wives Club.]

Reading about all these semipublic spankings makes me wonder if anyone who wasn’t supposed to ever stumble into one of them. That happened to me once years ago although the spanking was actually administered in my buddy’s kitchen by his wife so technically I suppose it wasn’t semipublic. My buddy (who goes unnamed) and I had a regular Saturday morning golfing date when I would pick him up at his house early morning and we would grab breakfast before hitting the links. This time he wasn’t waiting outside for me so I opened the kitchen door off the deck to call him. Instead what I saw froze me in my tracks. My buddy, pants and underpants around his ankles was over his wife’s lap while she was vigorously spanking him with a strap of some kind. He was in no position to see me but she did and smiled ever so slightly as I backed out the door. I drove around the block probably a dozen times hoping he would be out waiting for me so I wouldn’t have to go back in. But he wasn’t so I went to the front door and knocked to be met by his still smiling wife who said he “was running a little behind” and would be out soon. In another ten minutes or so he did come out looking I suspect like I do just after my wife warms my ass but he didn’t say anything about it or even acknowledge he was late. As far as I know he has no idea I saw it (unless his wife told him) and he probably has no idea my wife spanks me too. It’s weird when I think about it. We are still good friends and both have wives that spank but we have never shared any of it with each other. Two women in the same situation would probably talk it to death. Go figure